I was at a friend’s house for dinner the other evening and spotted a wedding Save the Date card posted to her refrigerator. After I made small mention of it, my friend revealed that while she was looking forward to the wedding, she wasn’t looking forward to taking a day from work in order to attend her friends’ Friday nuptials. “I also got married on a Friday,” I confessed. “It was Friday the 13th—only fitting to pick an odd date since he proposed on April Fool’s Day.” “Was it local?” she asked. “No, back home,” I replied. “Was it a small ceremony then?” she inquired. “About 150,” I answered. “Oh…” she said in that tone that was trying not to sound judgmental. “That’s not small.”
And from that brief, somewhat awkward conversation with a gal pal, I began to question for the first time since my wedding nearly four years ago—“Were we rude to hold our wedding on a Friday?”
I still haven’t decided the answer to this. While I can understand the inconsideration of asking friends and coworkers to take a vacation day, I’m thankful for the money we saved by going the non-traditional route. So, regardless of rudeness, here are three perks of holding a wedding on a non-Saturday.
1. You’ll save money.
Here’s a major pro to having your wedding on an off day. Venue prices are most expensive on Saturdays because that’s traditionally the day that all the other brides are fighting over. You can save some major bucks by moving your celebration forward or backward just one day.
2. You’ll have a better chance at booking your dream venue and vendors.
Perhaps you had a date in mind and discovered that the venue you had your heart set on is already booked. Your venue is more likely to be available if you go for a different day of the week. This goes for other vendors too, including your photographer, DJ and caterer.
3. You’ll have more time to spend with your guests—or on your honeymoon.
For us, having a Friday wedding meant spending quality time with our families on Saturday, leisurely opening wedding gifts together, playing some cornhole and waiting for a dreadful storm to pass (phew, glad we missed that by one day!) We had an entire extra day to unwind before boarding a plane for our honeymoon. Of course you’ll have to consider that if you work traditional Monday–Friday hours, a Sunday wedding could rob you of a honeymoon day.
And here are three things to keep in mind, in consideration of your guests.
1. Vacation days are precious.
When I began planning my wedding, I hadn’t yet landed a job with benefits. I didn’t understand how needed—and limited—vacation days are. Consider the number of guests who will be traveling to attend the wedding and decide if it’s feasible to expect them to take a vacation day. If you’re holding an out-of-town shindig, guests traveling to attend the wedding will most likely have to take a full vacation day on Friday. And your bridesmaids may even have to take two days, assuming the rehearsal will be held on Thursday.
2. Time it accordingly.
If you’re holding a local celebration, aim for after 6 p.m. on Friday to give guests a chance to work a full day, or at least a half. Plan Sunday ceremonies for earlier in the day, to give guests plenty of time to celebrate and then drive home if they don’t want to take Monday off.
3. Say ‘thank you’ with a gift.
It’s courteous to plan a little welcome package for out-of-town guests and even more appreciated when you’re asking them to travel on a non-traditional day. Say thanks with a heartfelt and homemade gift bag of goodies.